Let it go and love you instead.

You hear this all the time and I’m going to say it to you again.

Loving you is the answer to everything.

Now if you’re like me, I insisted I did love me. I did all the things…I ate nutritious food, I worked out, I pampered myself with manicures and pedicures, I was loving towards others, I was happy (or so I appeared)…

In my mind, that was loving me.


I was not my biggest advocate. I was not kind to myself. My self-talk was negative and I was the first to doubt myself, tear myself down and assume fault for all things…you know, like when someone would bump into me, I would say I was sorry.

Do you say “I’m sorry”, for everything? Well, I was the sorry girl, I had the word “sorry” in just about every sentence.

You know when people will say you need to be accountable for your actions? I was overly accountable, I would assume the fault was mine without thinking.

This is not loving you.

These things that I was doing were not driven from love, they were for my gain. At the time, I ate healthy food, because I wanted to be thin. I worked out, not because I loved me, but to negate any overeating and again to lose weight, because I believed my worth would come from being skinny – all my problems would be solved, if I was a size 2 and could wear anything I wanted.

That was my purpose for doing those things. It wasn’t because I loved being in my body, it wasn’t because I loved me so much that I wanted to choose healthy foods – no, I believed I had no choice, because I thought the only way to lose weight was to eat a super restricted diet.

It’s the intention we have behind what we do that gives it energy and that energy is what drives your results or perpetuates the ones you don’t want.

Does this make sense?

You can’t love you and reject you at the same time.

Love and fear cannot co-exist.

Anytime we act from lack, it is not coming from love.

What are acts of lack?

  • Hating yourself into your workout
  • Staying up late when you’ve been exhausted
  • Being on a diet
  • Over-drinking
  • Over-spending when you know you’re in debt
  • Overeating because you had a bad day
  • Eating from lack for you, ie not liking you, instead of from love for you
  • Gossiping
  • Judging others (when we judge others, it’s from harshly judging ourselves)

All of these acts of lack are not from love for you. They will drive you to eat. They will keep you stuck. They will perpetrate the same patterns in your heart you desperately want to change, because they don’t feel good and give you the same results you’ve been complaining about.

How do we shift this?

How to Shift from Lack to Love for Your Body, Life and Lasting Weight Loss:

  1. Make a list of the areas in your life where you are choosing from lack instead of love.
  2. Now that you have the awareness, that is your first step.
  3. Let’s start with food and movement (being in your body – this is a gift) – write a strong LOVING intention for why you are choosing to eat the foods you do and why movement is a gift and something you enjoy.
  4. Read these intentions daily.
  5. Repeat, I love myself, I am grateful for my body.

I’d love to hear how this exercise was for you and if today’s blog spoke to you. Please share with me in our private Done With Dieting community here


Radiantly Yours,


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